F.R.I.E.N.D.S

Just hoping that the weight will get lighter as the days go by.

I want to talk about my father but I don't think I'm ready yet.

I'm learning to let go, I'm trying hard.

I can't even let go of little things in life easily, moreover it's my father's death.
Yet, I'm proud to say that I've learnt to let go of some negativity lately.

Put my grief aside.

I always have problem letting go because I hold onto things and people that I

FEEL or THINK they are important.

What I don't know is that some things I deem important don't mean

they are all good to me or good for me.

Sometimes, I hold onto the wrong things and the wrong people.

I'm pretty sure we all do.

 We have to learn to eliminate toxic people from our lives.

Relationship or friendship, they are both the same.

You know someone is bad for you/bad to you,

you cling onto your initial perception, your initial viewpoint, your initial judgment.

You simply just want to stick up to your notion even when people tell you otherwise.

We have more responsibilities as we grow, who has time for drama?

I had pretty bad relationships, they were BAD but not dramatic, heh.
It's always just bad, break up, I sad sad sad cry sad cry emo, wake up, bye.

Even if I do have drama, it's usually not me but I just get involved anyhow.

Sometimes, I feel like an accessory, I always get dragged into shit.

The old Daphne can't come to the phone because she's dead, lol.

To my surprise, backstabbing doesn't cutback but it's on the rise as we grow.

I don't get this, don't you have more important things to do in life than backstabbing?

I don't see what good is going to come with backstabbing. Literally none.

What will you get from backstabbing people and tarnishing someone's reputation?

Backstabbing is for insecure, troubled and intimidated people.

They try to make other people look bad, so they look better.

But honey, when somebody looks bad, it doesn't make you look good, it doesn't link, no link.

Anyway, you are the best if you think you are the best.

There's no need for backstabbing.

If there's backstabbing, there will be a victim.

We often hear

I do agree but if one doesn't have a victim card, then how does one play the victim card?

Maybe the victim card is the last card someone has.

It could be someone's last cry for help.

 Some people can be that naive, they just get bullied but they don't voice it out.

That can be regarded as kind/tolerant/big-hearted/open-minded but sometimes, 

my homie, you're just getting bullied, you gotta stand up for yourself at the right, relevant time.

Backstab or backstabbed.

Don't you worry, child.

Sooner or later, people will know and people will puzzle it up themselves.

what is going to hurt and affect someone wrongfully and permanently

without them even knowing what they did wrong.

You smile to them but backstab them, they don't even know about your dissatisfaction
towards them and they smile back to you like bollocks.
That's unfair.
It is also sabotage, it's a wrong act.
It might tarnish a person's reputation or create misunderstandings that
damage relationships and friendships.

How do I stay with my friends for so long? How do we do it?

I always thought people need fate to be friends.

Yet, since you and I met, it was fate that brought us together right?

So, I think fate is out of the factors. Sincerity is the key.

Friends have to share the same values, some sort of similarity in life goals,

point of views, perceptions + to be able to bond and stay together.

Some major similarities and mutual agreement towards serious issues.

Not like I like strawberry jam but she likes raspberry jam, we can't be friends.

There will be differences: like I really think I'm fucking dumb sometimes.

I get sad easily when I make dumb decisions and I get very negative.

Jane put up with me for more than 11 years now and I wonder how she does it.

Jane has big ego too, she can't lose, she gotta ♪ win win win no matter what~

There was this one reader who asked Jane what do you like and dislike about Daphne.

Jane answered she's kind.

If you ask me what I like and dislike about Jane.

I'll answer the same thing, she's kind, she's wise and on and on.

 For example, XXX1 believes in making money with high integrity and morally.

XXX2 thinks that it's not too bad to give up dignity to make money.

There's a major difference here.

They are not walking the same path in life, they don't share the same vision.

You can agree with XXX1 or XXX2, there is not right or wrong, it's your choice.

Everyone has a choice of life.

 So how now? What to do with XXX1 and XXX2?

Why waste time? Why force yourself to like someone when you don't?

Why make yourself to be fake to others? There's no need for that.

You don't have to condemn people who don't share the same values as you.

You just got to stay away from people that you don't want to be.

We learn how to do that as we grow, that's why you have just a few best friends
compared to when you were in high school..

There is a big difference.

I want to explain how I feel about these two words.

Jealousy contains the feeling of resentment and unhealthy competitiveness.

Envy is a pure form of admiration and respect to something/someone you aim to reach.

If one day, you find yourself being jealous of your friend's success.

Leave that person and come back with a bigger heart.

Jealousy is one of the biggest causes to insincerity.

 Jealousy causes imbalance in your mental state.

You're envy of your friend.

It shows that you recognize his/her success, you're happy for him/her.

Why stay friends if you can't be happy for your "friends"?
If your friend doesn't see the greatness in you, he/she doesn't deserve to be your friend.